In 2009, I learned that there was no realistic way my best friend would ever be able to become a father -- his greatest desire in life. I decided then that I would offer to be a surrogate for him (which didn’t sound realistic at the time). A year later, I made that offer. He accepted, and in Nov. 2011 I got pregnant.

I’m writing this blog because I’m not the typical surrogate. For one, in the terms of the trade, I’m an altruistic traditional surrogate (I’m unpaid and the egg is mine) with a totally open arrangement with the dads. Most importantly, though, this is my first pregnancy (NO ONE thinks this is a good idea; most surrogates already have their own kids).

Also, we’re all gay, so this is going to be the gayest baby ever.*

- The Deputy

*Except for the children of those many, many other sets of three or more gays who decided to combine their powers to procreate...

March 30, 2012

20 week fetus

The fetus turned 20 weeks on Wednesday, but I decided to hold off on this post until my sonogram yesterday. Good thing I did -- the tech told me the fetus is 15 oz, which he said was normal, but my internet sources say is HUGE. I gotta admit, I'm not excited about this -- I've been hoping for a little one!

This week we also start measuring the fetus from head to heel instead of head to rump, so we have an additional change. says this week it's the size of a banana, 10 inches head to heel. With my whopping 15 oz fetus, I say it is now the size of an Eastern grey squirrel:

Wikipedia says Eastern grey squirrels' head & body length is 9.1 to 12 in, weighing in at between 14 - 20 oz. So the fetus-squirrel is only a wee one!


  1. How come that grey squirrel is so red? :p

  2. I am slow to the party here! I can't wait to read through your blog sometime this weekend. Sounds like an interesting tale.

  3. Haha...p
    thanks for commenting on my blog. Whats funny is my IPs came to my house with a case of beer for me while I was in labour lol! All I wanted the whole pregnancy was beer. Lets have a post partum party together!! lol